PRSD: the real reason for failing the relationships (and how to overcome)

It was not until 1986 when Robert Sternberg (Newark, USA, 1949), now president of the University of Wyoming and one of the most famous psychologists of the world, published in the journal Psychological Review 'his seminal triangular theory of love . This was the first classification of the types of relationships, which is still widely studied and debated today, and first addressed the major problem of every relationship: the transition known as romantic love more lasting love mate or consummated.
The sad reality is that most couples are soon victims of biology that joined them at first
According to the theory of Sternberg, love relationships evolve from the passion of commitment, intimacy can develop on the road and keeping or passion. But in this transition, most couples suffer what is known today as post-traumatic stress syndrome Romantic (PRSD, for its acronym in English).
Although this "disorder" is not yet recognized as such in the official manuals and perhaps should not be considered a proper-syndrome, is a well known phenomenon couple therapists and almost everyone who has had lasting relationships.

"The sad reality is that most couples are soon victims of biology that joined them at first," says psychologist John Bradshaw in his latest book 'Post-Romantic Stress Disorder: What to Do When the Honeymoon Is Over '(HCI). "When you're immersed in the first flush of love your brain is full of chemicals that make you feel like having sex all the time and help you to conceal imperfections of your partner". But overcome this phase of romantic love, which according to most studies vanishes after 12 or 18 months - lovers have to face the harsh reality: nothing is as perfect as it seemed.
"This does not mean that further unwilling" Bradshaw explains, "but it's as if they were experiencing the spell suddenly he disappeared. They do not want to make love at every opportunity and counting the minutes to be together. " It is at this time that, according to the American psychologist, most couples experience the PRSD. Some get over it soon, realizing that the decline of passion is normal and does not imply the absence of love, but others live an ordeal that ends in the destruction of the couple or, almost worse, the development of an unhappy marriage can last years.

Fighting nature

As Bradshaw explains, romantic love is always temporary because this is how we are biologically designed: the nature ensures that no couple remain in a state of love forever, as this would be detrimental to its survival and that of their children (the main evolutionary point of all this), which require more attention than it can offer someone alienated by love.
Most couples are compatible, but break because they are unable to achieve the kind of love that can endure over time
In the past , marriages were conceived as a social contract as a loving bond. This was in many ways a tragedy, but otherwise everyone was clear he did not have to be in love forever and your partner.
Today's speech has turned around completely and it seems that a relationship may not come to fruition if it is not built from the unbridled passion. It is a misconception that causes a lot of pain, it is almost impossible that romantic love survive in time. The only way to build lasting relationships, Bradshaw says, is knowing overcome this transition from romance to fellowship, creating lasting love with which enough sex, we must be clear, be lower than in the previous stage -.
In the psychologist, who has spent decades working as a family therapist opinion, the PRSD is the basis of most failed marriages: "I think that only 15% of couples are truly incompatible, but many break because they are unable to achieve the kind love that you really can endure over time. 
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